One thing you are most likely not prepared for as a mom to a baby who has grown to be a child is how to deal with child anger. Indeed, only a few moms and by extension parents know how to address child anger. Anger is a feeling and your child is bound to exhibit the feeling when upset or wronged. The worst you can do is to try to destroy your child’s feeling of anger. You only need to accept it as a natural strong feeling. You cannot suppress your child from expressing his/her strong feelings; you can only help by teaching your child the best way to express such feelings in an acceptable way.
There are several reasons why your child can be angry. Your child may simply become angry as a way of protecting him/herself against painful feelings. He/she may also become angry as a result of failing to meet what is expected of him/her. Your child can also become angry because of being isolated or when anxious about what is beyond his/her control.
Closely related to anger is aggression. You need to differentiate between these two in order to be in a good position to help. While anger is a temporary emotional state of the mind, aggression involves attempts to take revenge. Similarly, anger is a feeling when aggression is a habit. Helping your child overcome anger and aggression also differs. While it is proper to resort to punishment in case of aggression, you can only address anger by reaching out to your child with the aim of protecting him/her and finding a solution to issue at hand.
Children often exhibit anger in two ways; through outbursts or defiance. It is, therefore, very important that you always keep your ears and eyes open whenever you give your child instructions. You need to take note whenever you give a task that is otherwise not accomplished. You also need to watch out for signs of withdrawal since not all children exhibit defiance and outbursts when angry.
There are several techniques you can employ in managing your child’s anger and one of the most effective ones is being close to the child. Getting close and touching your child makes him/her calm. He/she realizes that you are interested in what bothers him/her. He/she eventually develops the habit of consulting you on matters that trouble him/her, matters or issues that make him/her angry. You simply need to show your child that you care and the best way to do this is by showing affection.
The other effective technique you can employ is by simply teaching your child about expression. Most children who get angry often turn out to be children who cannot express themselves verbally freely. The fact that your child can become angry simply because you have failed to him/her a listening ear makes it very necessary that you always take your time to listen and address whatever it is that your child has to say.
Providing physical outlets is no doubt a good technique in the management of child anger. His can be in the form of physical activities. The fact that angry children are often those that remain idle for long periods makes it necessary that you always keep your child engaged.
Although child anger is often ignored, it is one of the most critical issues you need to address as a parent. Proving the necessary help allows your child to develop good behavior, high self-esteem, and good character.